For most of us, one of the things that make us happy in life is having a child. Especially in this part of the world, where children are considered to be the fruits of marriage and source of joy for a couple, which even becomes a problem when a couple is married for sometime without an issue. It is indeed such a big blessing to be a parent. Ask those who are not blessed with children or who lost their child to an illness or accident, and you would realize that being blessed with a child is a blessing.
In the past 4 month I have experience what it feels like to be a father – a responsible one for that matter – and I am enjoying big time because I have learnt and still learning a lot and exposed to new perspective about life. Fatherhood has open up for me a new window of a purposeful life. I enjoyed going back home to see my son, and the joy I feel when I hold him in my arms cannot be infinitely quantified to the joy I feel when I am expecting the bank credit alert for my 30-days labour.
The role of the father to me should be more than that of just finance (making the money available for the family) and administrative (pick and drop the child at school and such tasks). The father in spite of his busy schedule should be involved in activities such as care, discipline and communication with the child. It’s no gain saying that a father’s presence has a huge impact on the development and wellbeing of their child. All of the things that are presumed to be the mothers’ responsibilities can also be done by the father once in a while if time permit.
I have principles and plans on parenting our son which I will be working together with my wife on. I did like to share some of the gems on the list that might benefit you:
- Teach him how important worshipping and prayers are.
- A one on one time with him often – this will ensure steady communication.
- Nurture a hobby with him especially the one he enjoys and picks early.
- Draw up a list of clear goals with him for all areas of his life.
- Schedule his week together with the family schedule.
- Read books with him including school work.
- Help him keep a journal of important activities daily.
- Always remind him of what makes him special.
- Have a daily commitment we do together.
- Let him know how importance and sharing and helping others are.
This are the top ten on the list, but I am sure updating it from frequently as situation permits. I hope I am not overhyping fatherhood, please don’t blame me if I do. It is probably because I didn’t enjoy an iota of fatherly love so I promise to give my children all I can. Please feel free to share yours in the comment below, if you have for others to learn. And if you don’t you really need to start consciously considering it.